During my recent travels, I picked up a copy of Kate Fox’s Watching the English. I’ve just finished it, and I can heartily and enthusiastically recommend it. On second thoughts, since I’m English, I should probably moderate my language:
The understatement rule means that a debilitating and painful chronic illness must be described as “a bit of a nuisance”; a truly horrific experience is “well, not exactly what I would have chosen”; an outstanding performance or achievement is “not bad”; an act of abominable cruelty is “not very friendly”, and an unforgivably stupid misjudgement is “not very clever”
On this scale, Watching the English is not bad. Not bad at all. And by now you may have guessed that Kate Fox is an anthropologist, and her book is an attempt to understand what it means to be English; what’s different about the English.
I was thinking of trying to summarize Fox’s conclusions – her “definition of Englishness” – but on reflection the summary wouldn’t be very useful on its own. She covers so many areas of life: language, dress, food, drinking, the weather, queuing, cars, pets, houses, sex, sports, work, and rites of passage. Class is a factor of course, but humour emerges as much more important.
Coincidentally there was a piece in today’s Boston Globe entitled A struggle to redefine ‘Britishness’, which included the following paragraph:
Britons are famously ambivalent about patriotism, according to anthropologist Kate Fox, who wrote a book on English behavior and who says patriotism violates the values of moderation and modesty that are part of being British. ”The English have a horror of earnestness, especially the sort of heart-on-sleeve sentimentality and solemnity indulged in by other nations expressing patriotic pride,” she said, citing Americans as an example.
Exactly. I moved to the US in 1981, and I remember the first time I found myself at some event (probably at my children’s school) where everybody was expected to put their hand on their heart and recite the Pledge of Allegiance. I remember thinking, “Come off it! Don’t take yourselves so seriously!”, but of course I said nothing. In the chapter on Rites of passage, Fox observes:
At funerals, we are deprived of our primary social coping mechanism – our usual levels of humour and laughter being deemed inappropriate on such an officially sad occasion. […] This is fascinating but painful to watch, like some cruel vivisectionist’s animal behaviour experiment: observing the English at funerals feels like watching turtles deprived of their shells.
And for me, standing stiffly while those Americans around me are pledging allegiance feels remarkably like attending a funeral. Sorry, it always has done.
Oh, well, mustn’t grumble. How about a nice cup of tea?